1. rica - December 17, 2017 @ 11:15 pm

    good news about your voice; take care, Rica

  2. bill ball - December 18, 2017 @ 12:08 am

    Glad to hear that your voice will be OK. Hope you will soon be able to play a few gigs down south. Ever thought of playing a few of the festivals? Have a good Christmas.

  3. bill ball - December 19, 2017 @ 12:19 am

    Al, had a think about your suggested failure of non-violent communication when your car broke down. I know where you are coming from. An ex-doorman once told me that people tend to calm down if you can keep your cool & do not reflect anger back at them.

    Unfortunately that theory often breaks down because we are fallible beings with emotions that are not always on a tight rein.

    When I was doing my shop steward training many years ago, I was taught that you always stay polite & never, ever lose your rag during meetings with management.

    That is fine in a structured negotiating situation. But does it work on a cold night when the guy behind you wants to get home & you are blocking the road? Evidently not all the time.

    I remember chatting to an old pub landlord who had quite a lively clientele, but rarely had any problems in his boozer. He was also an ex-copper. I asked him how he would handle a situation if a group of pissed up lads kicked off in his pub. “Easy” he said. ” I just send the missus out to quieten them down”. I asked how that worked. He said… “Look at me. I`m quite a big guy. A few of the lads would feel well up for taking me on when they`re pissed. Look at my missus. Five foot nothing & 8 stone soaking wet. Where is the macho street cred in taking her on?”

    The truth is that unless we are able to diffuse situations without reflecting anger, there will always be situations like those in which you found yourself. Non-violent communication theory doesn`t work for a very good reason. We are human.

    I am convinced that one day we will create a world without war. I am less convinced that we will be able to create a world without anger. It is just about how we deal with it.

    Merry Christmas.

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